What The Teens Said – The Bigger Ones Tag

There are many bloggers tags doing the rounds at the moment and I was mildly amused when the lovely Morgan at Morgan's Milieu tagged me a couple of weeks ago for the The Bigger Ones Tag instigated by Catie at An Imperfect Mum.  

At the time we were just coming to the end of our Californian Road Trip and were heading across the desert to Las Vegas.  I say I was amused because firstly my Teens don't know about my blog and secondly my eldest hates answering questions.

Fast forward a few hours and we are having dinner on the penultimate night of our holiday and fuelled by a few glasses of wine I just came out with it.  My daughter, Teen 2 who writes over on Wattpad was up for it straightaway.  My son, Teen 1 started out by asking me lots of questions and then surprisingly agreed "as long as it is anonymous".  So now I have set the scene for the interviews, here is what the Teens said.

Teen 1 - Male, 17 +

Who's Your Best Friend?

At my age I don't look at anyone as my best friend, I have lots of close mates in different groups. I like the variety.

What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

(Laughs) This is such a bizarre question to ask.  I love numbers and am applying to Uni to study Economics and then maybe I'll work in Finance or Accountancy.

If you could have one superpower what would it be and why?

Turning back time so that I could change some old decisions.

What are the 3 best things about being you?

I have lots of mates in different groups so my life is very sociable.  I am doing well at college and am at the top of my game in cricket right now.

What are the best and worst things about mum?

Best - You are very supportive and do a lot for me.

Worst - Your massive mood swings.

Can you name one thing that scares you?

Easy - Sharks.

What is the nicest thing a friend has ever done for you?

When I broke my leg, a friend stayed with me whilst another went to call for an ambulance.  I was in agony and he really helped me get through it.

How do you describe me to your friends?

(After a long pause...) To be honest we don't really talk about our parents but I do say you can be quite strict sometimes.

If you could go anywhere in the world for a day where would you go?

For a day it would have to be Ibiza!  (Ummm, I wonder why?) 

Which 3 words describe you best?

Generous, supportive and (always) right.

Once he had overcome his embarrassment at some of the questions Teen 1 was relatively forthcoming with his replies and surprisingly co-operative. I liked that his desired superpower would be to turn back time so that he could change some bad decisions, which hints at some regrets on his behalf. This is quite intriguing for us as a family because he does like to think that he is right about absolutely everything and approaches life with a very black and white outlook, so I like that he has a slight chink in his armour.

His being scared of sharks is a standing joke in the family and dates back to his watching Jaws at a friend's sleepover when he was 10! During our trip to Universal studios we visited the set for the Jaws movies and came up close and personal to the piece of fibreglass that has evoked so much terror in him for years. It was funny to say the least!

Even though he thinks I am strict I am glad he finds me supportive. It is difficult now that he is a young man to get the balance right between still guiding him and allowing him the freedom to grow up. As for my mood swings, well Mr MoT has always joked about my short "flash to bang" as he calls it!

Teen 2 - Female 13

Who is your best friend?

I have a group of best friends and we are the squad.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

I want to work in the film industry.

If you could have one superpower what would it be and why?

Teleportation.  It would be so cool  not to have to walk to lessons or take long flights on holiday.

What are the 3 best things about being you?

I am ginger (we are very rare you know), I think I am funny and having the friends I do.

What are the best and worst things about mum?

Best - You are really funny (husband harrumphs) and supportive.

Worst - You are a bit of a nag (husband harrumphs again)!

Can you name one thing that scares you?

Being forgotten.

What's the nicest thing a friend has ever done for you?

When I went through my toxic friendship episode earlier this year, one of my best friends was very supportive, it was great to know she had my back.

How do you describe me to your friends?

You are really considerate, understanding and a good cook (husband and I laugh).

If you could go anywhere in the world for a day where would you go?

Japan.

Which 3 words best describe you?

Funny, friendly, individual.

Teen 2 is a very happy go lucky individual and is very confident in her own skin. She loves humour and relishes in making people laugh and often her friends' parents will remark on her upbeat nature. Of course life is not all plain sailing and as I have mentioned in a previous post she has had a really tough time with a toxic friendship which knocked the stuffing out of her a bit, but her friends helped her through it.

It is interesting that like Teen 1 she surrounds herself with a group of best buddies rather than singling out an individual and places huge importance upon the value of her friends in her life. The fact she doesn't want to be forgotten is intriguing.  Does this hint at insecurity or just simply that she wants to be famous?  Who knows.

I was also touched that she too thinks I am supportive even if I do nag which of course all mums do to an extent, but I do particularly with her as she is so forgetful which just drives me potty! I blame it on her father's genes - of course!

All in all I found this whole exercise really interesting in giving me an insight into my teens "unfettered" view of me as well as a glimpse into some unexplored areas of their teen brain.

 

Thanks for for the tag Morgan and if they are up for the challenge I would like to tag the following ladies:

BiggerOnes Tag Rules:

  • Interview your child
  • Tag 3-5 other bloggers
  • Add the badge and give the tag a mention.

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32 Comments

    • November 14, 2016 / 5:45 pm

      Fantastic news, thanks Mackenzie. #mg

  1. November 13, 2016 / 1:40 am

    I LOVED reading this, with my eldest being 12 it was a great insight. It sounds like they have amazing supportive friends and I think that is such an important thing during life and especially teen years. They really gave such amazing answers and sound like awesome teens! #mg
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    • November 13, 2016 / 8:46 am

      Friendship is a big thing for both of them which is wonderful and heartwarming that they feel so happy and secure. They are great kids. I don’t say that to them often enough actually – amidst all the nagging! Ha ha. #mg

  2. November 11, 2016 / 4:22 pm

    I loved this. Your kids both sound very mature for their ages. I like that they both value friendship so much and that they both value having a mix of friends
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK
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    • November 13, 2016 / 8:43 am

      Thanks Debbie I am glad you enjoyed it. I think friends almost become replacement parents for teenagers, which whilst sad as they move away from us is great that they have such a great support network around them. Thanks for commenting. #BloggerClubUK

  3. November 10, 2016 / 8:28 pm

    Lovely to get a bit of a voice from the ‘usual subjects’! They seem like good kids 🙂
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub
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    • November 10, 2016 / 10:25 pm

      Thanks my dear, I think they are ok. #coolmumclub

  4. November 10, 2016 / 11:39 am

    This is a really fun exercise to do! I love reading things like this – there is another one doing the rounds at the moment of questions to ask your pre-schooler and some of the “results” I’ve read are hilarious! Sadly my little one is too young to join in just yet, but I can imagine his answers will be funny in years to come! Your kids sound very sensible, and I love that their superpowers are so different for different reasons! #GlobalBlogging

    • November 10, 2016 / 2:24 pm

      Oh I will have to look out for that as am sure it will be funny. Thanks for commenting – I wonder if they were deliberately trying to sound sensible actually! #globalblogging

  5. November 9, 2016 / 9:47 am

    What a fun idea. My eldest teen is in his first year at Cardiff Uni studying Economics and loving it, I hope things work out for your son too. #BloggerClubUK

    • November 9, 2016 / 10:20 pm

      What a coincidence. Will have to check out your site for top tips. #BloggerClubUK

  6. November 8, 2016 / 1:36 pm

    This was a really interesting read and thanks for tagging me! I’m going to ask my kids if they will take part, but I’m not sure if they will!
    Your eldest reminds me a lot of my 15yo. It’s good that they can look back and realise that there are times when they should have done things differently. It’s great that both your kids have a supportive group of fiends and it’s good that your daughter had a friend to support her through a difficult time.
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    • November 9, 2016 / 10:22 pm

      They are creatures of habit I think and it is only when you start comparing stories that you realise that there is a common theme. Regrets are good, it shows they are human.

  7. November 8, 2016 / 1:34 pm

    This is such a nice read. Definitely does give an insight into your child’s minds. It’s nice that your sons bravado slipped with his regret admission and it’s so nice that your girl has a strong unit of friends around her. Such a positive post!
    #bigpinklink

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:39 pm

      Oh thanks Lianne, I am glad you enjoyed reading the results, I wasn’t sure whether to use it for a linky but am glad I did as it is gives a good teen perspective which hopefully goes someway to doing what Catie @ AnImperfectMum was trying to achieve with a focus on the bigger ones. Thanks for commenting. #bigpinklink

  8. November 8, 2016 / 8:35 am

    Thank you so much for taking part in the Bigger ones tag! I absolutely loved reading this because it is so interesting to see how it also works with older children. I love your insight into your children’s personalities and how it also gave you a view of your son that he’d never allowed you to see before. I’m with your daughter – teleportation would be so cool, I could nip across to the UK whenever I felt like it and have a cuppa with my best friends. Thanks again for taking part!
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    • November 8, 2016 / 1:37 pm

      It was great fun to do – I wasn’t sure the questions would work but as you say there were some great insights there. Hope you keep getting some great responses.

  9. November 8, 2016 / 6:31 am

    Oh, I love this series! Being a mom of older children myself, there are not as much on teens than there are on the babies and younger children. It is refreshing to read about other teens and what they see. I find it interesting that your Teen 1 says that they do not talk about their parents which would make sense. I don’t think mine does either. Really wonderful to see input about the older kids. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink
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    • November 8, 2016 / 8:23 am

      Yes it is tough finding Teen kindred spirits amongst the blogs – how did I miss that about you? Yes I can’t work out whether the older Teens don’t talk about their parents because they are embarrassed by them or because they truly believe they are divine beings miraculously placed in our care – or both actually. Thanks for commenting. #bigpinklink

  10. November 7, 2016 / 9:09 pm

    Very brave to Interview your teenagers, but they sound like very sound people. My daughter is just one and I was thinking today what it will be like to actually have a conversation with her. I am looking forward to finding out what kind of person she becomes. #bigpinklink

    • November 7, 2016 / 10:43 pm

      Oh you have the best bit to come yet, when they start talking it is just so fabulous. Thanks for reading and commenting. #bigpinklink

  11. November 7, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    This kind of made my day! Thank you for the tag. I loved reading this and my first question has to be – do they now about the blog now? There is so much honesty in their answers and so much enlightenment. Also that feeling of ‘it’s not just me then’! I have a redhead too. You may understand that I will have to pick my moment for this line of questioning! The last few months have thrown up a taste of what may be on its way. Beautiful children and I did giggle at some responses and others, well – they just warmed my heart! x
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    • November 7, 2016 / 10:40 pm

      Oh thank you Nicky I am glad. Re the blog – kind of – they know I do one but that is all – for now at least. Not sure the eldest in particular would be very thankful of some of my posts hence the anonymity. I look forward to reading your responses.x

  12. November 7, 2016 / 2:32 pm

    I love this!! I’m going to ask my twelve year old these questions later. I did laugh that he says your worst trait is your mood swings. My son would say EXACTLY the same! #mg

    • November 7, 2016 / 10:49 pm

      I think mood swings are common amongst us mothers aren’t they? It’s always the males in the house that pick up on them too which is really annoying. My husband just sat there nodding away in the background when he said that. Let me know what answers you get. #mg

  13. November 7, 2016 / 2:23 pm

    This is lovely. Congratulations on finally “outing yourself” to your teens. In my real life, there are only a handful of people who know that I blog, and only 1 person that I’ve entrusted with the actual name and URL!

    I love that Teen 1 has some real ambition and seems so happy with his group of friends at the moment. And Teen 2 surprised me saying that her biggest fear is ‘being forgotten’ but I guess it’s a fear that a lot of us have. It’s great that they both feel so supported by their mum though – you must be doing a good job! #BigPinkLink
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    • November 7, 2016 / 10:46 pm

      Oh Lucy you are a braver woman than me. I haven’t told a soul – not even my sister and that is a big deal! Partly because I don’t think many people would “get it” and partly because I want to test it out first and see how it progresses without anyone judging me in my “real life” as you put it. I too loved my Teens answers and found it an interesting insight. Thanks for commenting. #bigpinklink

  14. November 7, 2016 / 1:55 pm

    So interesting to read these – and you’re right – once they have overcome their embarrassment the answers are really interesting! Sounds like you’re doing a fab job!

    • November 7, 2016 / 10:36 pm

      Ha ha yes and no bribery involved. Thanks Helen.

    • November 7, 2016 / 12:30 pm

      You are welcome. It was interesting. Good luck – if all else fails you could try bribery! #thebiggeronestag

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