Fabulous Fifty..What Does It Really Look Like?

Fabulous Fifty..What Does It Really Look Like?

This is the year I turn 50, as will according to Google, such female acting luminaries as Nicole Kidman and Julia Roberts, plus Carla Bruni and Sam Taylor-Johnson. Of these fellow, "soon-to-be" quinquagenarians I would most like to align myself with Julia or Sam whose approach to ageing seems most akin to my own of wanting to grow old gracefully rather than pursue a quest to look younger. I want to enter this next decade of my life knowing how best to keep healthy and look fantastic without resorting to alternative means of feigning youthfulness.  The taut foreheads of Nicole and Carla are not for me.

Turning back the clock is something we all wish for from time to time, not simply from an aesthetic perspective but in order to be able to relive those fabulous experiences that have shaped who we have become.  In my 20's I was a single, ambitious career girl who worked hard and played hard.  In my 30's I experienced my most significant life changes. I got married, became a first time mother, a divorcee, a single working mum and then a woman embarking on her second marriage.  In my 40's I put the brakes on my PR career and became a full-time parent.  Every decade has been filled to the brim with wonderful life experiences I wouldn't change for the world.

Now on the precipice of my 50's I am older, wiser and certainly more self-assured and with one teenager about to turn 18 and leave home for University, I have the time to take stock, make some amendments to my lifestyle and embrace the next decade with the same enthusiasm as the last four.

So at the juncture of this second half of my life what is changing?  What does facing 50 really look like - warts and all?  Facially most people would say that I have not changed that much.  At a party over the summer I was recognised immediately by an old work colleague I hadn't seen for 30 years.  I have lines on my forehead and around my eyes but these have been with me most of my life and having watched my mother age before me I am pretty sure they go with my genetic territory.  But genes can't account for everything.

Our skin is made up of around 80% collagen when we are young and then as early as the age of 25 it starts to decline as the natural moisture is depleted, so as you would expect, at 50 mine is not as plump and dewy looking as I would like anymore and is inevitably getting drier.   Aside from my skin, my teeth have also suffered the test of time and are thinner and susceptible to chipping.

Physically, I am gaining weight.  My waist has moved through the decades from an enviable 23 inches to a comfortable 27 inches.  This is not big I know that, just annoying in that with a passion for following fashion I have a wardrobe full of clothes that I can't bring myself to throw away because too many wage packets were sunk to buy them, but equally I can't wear for any other reason than my burgeoning peri-menopausal waist.  I am a bit stiffer than I used to be and with creaky knees I worry about osteoporosis.  My eyesight has also declined; where once I could manage to read a menu at least without my glasses, that is no longer the case and my hearing is definitely not as sharp as it once was.

Getting older is fraught with new challenges and is also quite frankly expensive as you do find that you need "retouching" a little bit more than previously.  My hair needs reviving with a colour on a more regular basis, as do my eyebrows which are getting sparser as each year goes by thanks to the "pencil thin" brow being all the rage when I was a teen.  I also spend more than I should on face creams and love a good facial.  This may seem superficial to some, but the consensus amongst my girlfriends at least is that feeling better about ourselves is crucial to our overall well being.  Just because we are getting older does not mean we have to hang up our heels and hide ourselves in dowdy clothes, invite in the wrinkles or relinquish ourselves to the onslaught of sprouting grey hairs.  Far from it.  Some of my favourite newly found blogs Look Fabulous Forever, Fabafterfiftythe-Bias-Cut.com, liveinfitness.co.uk celebrate the older woman and act as a true inspiration to continue looking fantastic irrespective of our age.

So having painted a gorgon like image of myself physically, what is happening mentally?  Well I am becoming more forgetful for sure, particularly my short-term memory.  I have been known to walk into a room to do something and instantly forget why I am there.  I tell my teenagers a piece of information and then repeat it again hours or in some cases just minutes later.  I misplace things regularly and have an annoying habit of putting things in the wrong place or even in a safe place that I then can't recall! Are these early signs of dementia or can I blame this on the dreaded menopause too?  My mood swings are increasingly more godzilla than bambi, but of course "It Must Be My Hormones!"

As I turn 50 and continue further along my life's journey I want to know how best to care for the inevitable changing needs of my skin and body; I want to know how best to nourish myself not only for a long and healthy life but to look and feel great; I absolutely want to continue looking my best whether that involves a new make-up routine or a style revamp; I want to explore supplementing my regular Pilates and Barrecore habit with different exercises as I age; I want to combat my forgetfulness, restore my hormonal imbalance (because there must be one right?) and prevent the onset of disease such as that experienced by my mother.  Ultimately I want to be the healthiest, fittest and best-looking 50 year old I can be.

It is, however, about so much more than wanting to feel and look good.  I want to continue to enjoy being a parent to my gorgeous teenagers and watch them flourish into successful, happy adults.  There is so much more to come with them yet.

What is great about this age is the confidence that comes with knowing who I am.  I don't have to prove myself to anyone anymore - apart from myself.   So I want to continue to pursue the hobbies I love as well as investigate new ones. I am not going to shy away from offers of work, I have the time and the skill and as facing 50 looks like it is going to be more high maintenance than I imagined I can't afford to be fickle.  So there you have it my "Fabulous Fifty Resolutions"....well the theory anyway, now I need to put it all into practice!

 

 

 

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  1. January 18, 2017 / 8:13 am

    You have every reason for feel fabulous at 50! I’m sure you look fabulous too. I always think that age is just a number, it’s more about how we look and feel inside, and you should like you’re embracing 50 in a positive way. I hate that feeling that you can no longer fit into the clothes in the wardrobe, grrrr! Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x
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    • January 18, 2017 / 8:54 am

      Thanks Claire – there are ups and downs – today I definitely feel more like a 50 year old than yesterday ie a bit more creaky than I would like. Thanks for your comment. #fortheloveofBLOG

  2. January 16, 2017 / 11:59 pm

    I wish I could have written this as well as you have. This is very close to my own thoughts on approaching fifty. Aproaching 54 I can say I feel more comfortable with myself now than at any age, even though I have the wrinkles to show for it. Congratulations on keeping so trim! 27inch be proud of that! x
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    • January 17, 2017 / 8:17 am

      Laurie you look amazing for 54! You have hair to die for, amazing skin and always looks so fabulous in your shoots. We can’t rid ourselves of all the wrinkles and actually even though I wish I could zap a few they are testament to a life lived well. Thanks for your lovely comments.x

  3. January 16, 2017 / 4:06 pm

    I have no tips or tricks to help you on your journey, but I’m sure you will look fantastic at 50! It’s great you are so comfortable with yourself and happy where you are in life, I definitely think that makes all the difference! 🙂 xxx #ABloggingGoodTime

    • January 16, 2017 / 9:22 pm

      Oh thanks Sassy – I am trying to stay as positive as I can. Thanks for commenting. #ABloggingGoodTime

  4. January 15, 2017 / 10:28 am

    This was such an enjoyable read. I really loved hearing about how you truly feel approaching 50 and how you ar looking to embrace it. If it helps I’m just approaching 35 and my eyesight is awful, my hearing is shocking and my brain is so overworked I forget the simplest of things. #PostsFromTheHeart

    • January 15, 2017 / 11:43 am

      Oh Becci – that is funny – I think probably I have had all these problems for a while too – maybe it is just the typical symptoms of motherhood. Thanks for your lovely comment. #PostsFromTheHeart

  5. January 14, 2017 / 8:57 pm

    Awesome post! At 42, I know I am totally screwed because I ALREADY regularly walk into a room and forget what the heck I am doing there. And that’s been happening for YEARS! You are an inspiration to be committed to graceful aging instead of fighting it tooth and nail. That is my plan – in general, at least! The bags under my eyes make me feel less than beautiful, so I may have to do something about that. If I do, it will most certainly be for myself and no one else.

    Oh, and FYI, I’m married to a 50 year old man who gets finer by the year, in my opinion. 🙂
    #FamilyFun
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    • January 14, 2017 / 9:29 pm

      Thanks Mary, glad it resonated with you. My husband is 55 this year and I swear he just keeps getting better year on year too. It’s so not fair, men always seem to grow into their skin with age don’t they? Thanks for commenting. #familyfun

  6. January 14, 2017 / 2:54 pm

    Great post and fabulous outlook on life in general. We should always strive to be the best versions of ourselves.

    I love that these days, age doesn’t define a person as much as it seems to have done in the past. There is no longer any reason to believe that we are too young, or too old for the things we love and the life we want to live. 20 year olds are CEOs and 60 year olds are fashionistas. We only live once. Can’t let something as silly as a number stop us from living. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • January 14, 2017 / 8:57 pm

      Of course you are so right. The only thing that defines us is ourselves. Thanks so much for your great comment. #fortheloveofBLOG

  7. January 13, 2017 / 3:22 pm

    A great post and it sounds like you’ve got a great attitude towards your 50’s. You’re so right that with age comes experience and confidence. Each year I feel more and more comfortable in my own skin.

    I am definitely in agreement about getting the right creams to look after your skin. I’m told I don’t have the skin of someone in my mid-30’s and I swear this is thanks to my Mum drilling in the importance of cleansing and moisturising from the start of my teens. Thanks Mum!

    Hope you enjoy your next decade!

    #FamilyFun

    • January 13, 2017 / 10:18 pm

      I am drilling in to my teens about skincare. It is so important. My mother was rubbish with that, she really didn’t care and I so regret not starting before 35…That’s why I am making up for lost time now. #familyfun

  8. January 13, 2017 / 12:55 pm

    You know I am totally with you on this one my dear! And you know why. I am not afraid, quite the opposite, I very much see new beginnings as the order of the day. I look forward to our seamless transition and a year of fun! #PoCoLo
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    • January 13, 2017 / 1:24 pm

      A woman after my own heart. We must be sure to compare notes Nicky! #PoCoLo

  9. January 13, 2017 / 12:47 pm

    I love your positivity and great attitude towards ageing. I agree with your statement about being more self assured, I feel that in my 40’s. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉
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    • January 13, 2017 / 1:20 pm

      Clearly my mantra to be positive about the big 50 is working! Thanks for your comment Catie. #ablogginggoodtime

  10. January 12, 2017 / 11:49 pm

    OMG you, JustSayingMum and me. I nodded throughout this and then saw Helen’s comment and nearly wet myself when I noticed she googled dementia because guess what? So have I!! I love this post; so classy. My fave bit and one that I really believe in is not having to prove yourself to anyone but yourself.
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    • January 13, 2017 / 8:27 am

      Ha ha. My husband says if it is not dementia then either my fluctuating hormones have a lot to answer for or I must have seriously destroyed my brain cells with too much wine! This week apparently I have “misplaced” his favourite work shoes – how is that possible?? Glad you liked it and clearly I have to prove to myself now that I don’t have dementia and am not going potty! x

  11. January 12, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    Wonderfully written. I am terrified of ageing. I sobbed on my 30th birthday, dreaded my 40th and I am sure I will be horrified when I hit 50. However, age is definitely just a number and I have no intention of ‘acting my age’ ever! My parents are in their 80s and my sisters are on the verge of turning 60 and they are all fit and healthy, go on regular walking holidays and they all inspire me to stay as young as I can for as long as I can. Have a fabulous 50th year! #ablogginggoodtime

    • January 12, 2017 / 10:36 pm

      Nicola it sounds like you have good ageing genes! I like your attitude too….entering another decade is certainly no reason to sit back on life. Wonderful to hear you are inspired to be young at heart. Thanks for commenting. #ablogginggoodtime

  12. January 12, 2017 / 1:43 pm

    I love this! I love the confidence that comes with age and loving your attitude throughout this post – big virtual fist bump! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xoxo

    • January 12, 2017 / 5:26 pm

      Got to start as I mean to go on! Thanks my dear. #coolmumclub

  13. January 12, 2017 / 6:05 am

    I love this it is so honest! I hope I can be so accepting when I get there. It is great as you get older how you come to know yourself and what you want! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun
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    • January 12, 2017 / 8:33 am

      Thanks Karen, glad you liked it. We all learn to accept ourselves more as we get older I think and become more self-assured as a result. #familyfun

  14. January 11, 2017 / 9:14 pm

    I love this. I loved your summary of the last few decades and I love reading about the confidence and self assurance that you have developed. It gives me hope! I hope you enjoy the next decade as much as the previous and live it to the full! PS I am all for ageing without intervention but love me a facecream and definietly over indulge. Thanks for sharing at #familyfun
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    • January 11, 2017 / 9:18 pm

      Thanks so much. I am a woman on a mission this year. Sometimes it takes a significant birthday to give you the boost that you need. Glad to hear you love a good face cream too! They are my favourite “over-indulgence” if only to compensate for that extra glass of mummy wine! Thanks for commenting. #familyfun

  15. January 11, 2017 / 9:55 am

    This is such a beautiful post. I think as we get older our perspectives both change and stay the same; hopefully (or so I tell myself) in positive ways. I have great admiration for anyone parenting teenagers and staying sane, mine aren’t quite at that stage yet but my eldest regularly informs me that I forget everything, so on that score I’m not sure I have any hope! I hope when I am 50, I can write a post like yours. A post where I am accepting of who I am, but still determined to be the best I can. Thank you so much for sharing it with us at #PostsFromTheHeart
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    • January 11, 2017 / 11:24 am

      Oh thank you so much it is really wonderful to hear you liked it. I am not sure why but I certainly feel more inspired at being 50 to be the best I can be, more so than I did at 40. Thanks for commenting and for sharing the post, it means alot. #PostsFromTheHeart

  16. January 11, 2017 / 5:02 am

    I love this. Your attitude and confidence are amazing! I’m 25 and you’re fact about skin collagen has got me wondering if I need to go buy face cream?! Enjoy 50..sounds like you’re going to rock it. I’d love to feel as confident as you do in my own skin one day xx #marvmondays

    • January 11, 2017 / 8:40 am

      Oh Wendy you have the best years ahead. Re the face cream – go for it – you can never start too early and I have got both my teenagers into a good skincare regime already – once it has gone, it has gone. Thanks for your lovely comment. #MarvMondays

  17. January 10, 2017 / 11:27 am

    You are dealing with this a lot better than I did…oh I so did not want to be 50. My birthday is in November and I spent almost the whole year fretting about it. I didn’t want to be 50. it just sounded old. Then the time came, I was spoilt by everyone and my birthday was really lovely. And you know what, I didn’t feel any different afterwards! All that worry for nothing. Shortly afterwards I became suddenly disabled by a rare condition…just my luck! So all my plans of staying fit and healthy seemed to go out of the window. But I’ve got used to it a little now and although it still gets me down I still feel I have a lot of life left in me.
    I spent my 51st birthday getting married 🙂 🙂

    • January 10, 2017 / 3:31 pm

      I am sure I am being so positive and upbeat because my birthday is so early in the New Year, if it was a little later I may be less enthusiastic. It is just a number at the end of the day so really we shouldn’t get so hung up on it should we? I am so sorry to hear your news but glad to know that you are being so positive about it and congratulations on getting married too – it is lovely to know that there was a silver lining behind your cloud. Thanks so much for commenting Anne. x

  18. January 9, 2017 / 8:44 pm

    I think it’s great that as we get older we get to know ourselves and start to feel much more comfortable in our own skin. Happy birthday!

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    • January 9, 2017 / 8:48 pm

      Oh I agree – makes life so much easier doesn’t it when we don’t have to worry about anything. Thanks for commenting. #bigpinklink

  19. January 9, 2017 / 6:01 pm

    I love this and how confident you are. As I get older (30 this year) I finally feeling like i’m getting to know myself and look forward to having that confidence about me. #PostsFromTheHeart

    • January 9, 2017 / 6:59 pm

      Oh lucky you! I loved my 30’s, the most turbulent decade of my life but definitely the most fun. My attitude to 50 is a bit of bravado at the moment, the New Year does that to you, am sure I will crumble nearer the time! Watch this space. Thanks for commenting. #postsfromtheheart

  20. January 9, 2017 / 2:40 pm

    Such a positive and inspiring post. I’m approaching 40 and for the first time ever my resolutions have involved investing a little in my skin as I have totally neglected it up to this point. I can absolutely see how our confidence grows as we do, and in fact to me it feels as though I am only just really starting to grow into and be comfortable in my own skin. Here’s to the fabulous next decade for you, and to the many memories that are waiting to be made. #bigpinklink

    • January 9, 2017 / 5:14 pm

      We only have the one so we need to look after it and it’s never too late to start. I always hope that if I buy an expensive pot of cream it will miraculously reverse effects of not using SPF as a teen and the amount of “parenting” wine I have consumed! Ha ha to that. Thanks for kind wishes and make the most of the big 40! #bigpinklink

  21. January 9, 2017 / 1:52 pm

    I love this and understand completely. I will be 50 next year and am so much more confident than in my early years of adulthood. #MarvMondays

    • January 9, 2017 / 5:11 pm

      Oh Fiona make the most of this last 40th year it will fly by. I think 50 is the big “grown up” number isn’t it? By this stage we have achieved so much and are taking on a different mantle in our own lives too as our children leave home and we have to turn to looking after our own parents too maybe. Thanks for commenting. #MarvMondays

  22. January 9, 2017 / 1:46 pm

    I definitely like the way that we gain confidence with age. Confidence to no longer care about other people’s approval and the need to conform. The lines, not so much. Wishing you a wonderful 50th year! Thanks for joining us for #marvmondays

    • January 9, 2017 / 4:57 pm

      As our children grow in confidence as they grow up so do we as we age and no more so than when we become parents, that is undoubtedly the biggest game changer for us all. Successfully raising children is no small feat. Thanks for your kind wishes and for commenting. #MarvMondays

  23. January 9, 2017 / 10:49 am

    I love this post. I’m about 10 years off. My grey is coming through properly now, but I’ve never dyed it and I don’t know if I will or not. I have to carry my son’s alot because of their disabilities and I’m aware of early wear on my body. My knees grind up stairs etc. SO in the back of my . mind I’m trying to take a bit of care so 50 will still be fabulous. You seem to have got it down. #postsfromtheheart

    • January 9, 2017 / 4:55 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. Life can be hard sometimes and I think if we can stand back and put ourselves first every now and then it is no bad thing as age just creeps up from nowhere. Thanks for your comment. #postsfromtheheart

  24. January 9, 2017 / 10:22 am

    Aaah, I love this a lot!!! I love your attitude to all of it-it’s quite inspirational! Recognising the changes and the challenges, but approaching them with positivity is great! I still can’t decide what my feelings are about ageing-but I think I’m ok with it! Although like you, I do splurge on very expensive skin creams (I’ll allow myself that though-it’s the only thing I spend lots of money on,) and it seems to do my skin the world of good-getting told I looked like I could be 17, she couldn’t quite tell if I’d turned 18 yet, by the shop assistant in Tesco, made me feel like spending the money had been worth it! I don’t think that botox, or surgery will ever be for me-but I will also say never say never! I hope to be like you at 50-striving to be fit and healthy through good diet, and good exercise, and be happy about the fun years that I will have packed in before getting there!
    thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!
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    • January 9, 2017 / 4:53 pm

      Oh thank you my dear. I may benefit from the fact my birthday is at the beginning of the year so I am currently infected with that whole “new year positivity” towards being 50. I am sure it won’t be like that on the day and I will be crying at some point during the evening, but for now I am going with the “gung-ho” attitude. I have a few friends who have dabbled in the botox arena (mostly those of American origin) and they swear by it but I would be terrified of being the statistic that goes wrong. I dream of being like Susan Sarandon as I age but as I didn’t start out with her natural beauty that is highly unlikely! Anyway, each decade is the start of a new era so it will be good to see what it has in store. Thanks for commenting. #bigpinklink

  25. January 9, 2017 / 9:46 am

    Since turning 40 six months ago I am probably at my most fulfilled! I agree things aren’t as ‘pretty” as they used to be, my puffy eyes annoy me, but I’m Ok (so far) with wrinkles. But in terms of confidence I am feeling good. I think in many ways it is because I have finally learned to love myself and not be so obsessed with pleasing others. I am excited for what my 40’s will bring . I hope you have fab 50’s xx #PostsFromTheHeart.
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    • January 9, 2017 / 4:46 pm

      You look amazing, I would never have said you were 40! After my description of myself goodness knows how you may imagine me! With age comes wisdom and confidence and certainly I think by the age of 40 most of us have found our feet and are sure of our place in the world. Make the most of the next decade. #PostsFromTheHeart

  26. January 9, 2017 / 9:13 am

    I really enjoyed this post. I’m sure you’ll absolutely rock 50!!! #bigpinklink

    • January 9, 2017 / 9:16 am

      Oh thank you my dear that is very kind of you. Rocking 50 – is the plan! #bigpinklink

  27. January 9, 2017 / 8:59 am

    Favourite sentence and one that I will live by when i get there – well in fact I live by that now for the age I am – well at least try “Ultimately I want to be the healthiest, fittest and best-looking 50 year old I can be.” – making this the focus will ensure that you will be. Oh the memory thing made me laugh – I’ve been getting like that and even googled early dementia signs but I was happy that google told me that you wouldn’t even be aware that you were forgetting things if you had early dementia – phew! Hope all the plans leading up to your 50th go well. Funnily enough, I’ve just read Garance Dore’s book and am so inspired to write a post about being in my 40s – she nails it with how the confidence of becoming 40 is up there as one of the best feelings – I certainly agree – oh to have had this confidence in my 20s and 30s! Great read lovely #MarvMondays
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    • January 9, 2017 / 9:12 am

      Oh Helen you have made me feel so much better about the whole dementia thing! My family tease me constantly about it. I will have to check out the book you mention, am struggling for good reading material at the moment aside from one about the menopause! My daughter asked me the other day which was my favourite decade and I plumped for my 30’s, which is odd as that was the one during which I experienced the most chaos in my life but as a person I really felt on top of my game. My 40’s I loved and still do for the last few weeks I have left anyway as I felt my most complete as an individual but overall I would say it has probably been the dullest of them all if that makes any sense. As for my 50’s well I have no idea what to expect. Thanks for your lovely comment. #MarvMondays